Priorities- necessity or luxury?

Ok this might sound  a little weird, but if you where asked a question to prioritise whats important to you on a daily basis what sort of things would be at the top of the list for you?

I don’t mean family or good health etc which is important to nearly all of us. I mean the selfish stuff, you know,more money, a size 8 model figure, ‘good hair’ days everyday and the like.

For me it would be a range of things. As you know I have had M.E for the past 3 years and it has significantly changed my life. I have gone from being a Qualified Driving Instructor with my own business, jogging 2-3 times a week, having some spare money to spend for the family, being active with the kids- cycling and activity holidays etc, to being unable to work, loss of earnings, unable to do activities with my boys and spending several hours a day in bed in order to get through the rest of the day. I struggle with anything physical, so cleaning, ironing, walking (any distance on some days) are pretty impossible without being laid up in bed the next day in pain and exhausted.

So the things that would make a huge difference to me would be things that I would class as luxuries- yet feel like necessities to help our situation.

1. A Cleaner– this would be a godsend and I’m sure you will all agree that it is impossible to keep on top of. But add on to that the physicality of hoovering etc for me is just horrendous. So my OH (who is an absolute star) does most of this for me- yes I know how lucky I am. However he is a VERY hardworking man working full time shift work with extra duties and cancelled days etc and thinks nothing of coming in and ironing at 10pm at night!! BUT THAT SHOULDN’T BE LIKE THAT FOR HIM. So for me someone coming in twice a week would improve our lives unbelievably.

2. Massage– yes we all love to go for a girly spa day etc, but this is seen as a treat RIGHT? Well for me alternative therapies can ease the amount of muscular pain I can be in. A massage once a week would be great to ease my neck and lower leg pain- and to go on a regular basis could help me be a little more physical myself without so much muscle pain.

I could think of a few more but you would really think I was a selfish cow.

What stops me then? Well I totally consider these to be luxuries and with things as tight as they are financially, due to not being able to work, they cannot be justified in any sense!

So back to the question………….necessity or luxury?

What’s on your wish list?

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4 thoughts on “Priorities- necessity or luxury?

  1. A Mum on a Mission

    I don’t consider you to be selfish at all, a few years ago now i suffered badly with SPD, i had to use crutches if i wanted to get about, i was made redundant because of my illness and i felt helpless.

    But, in NO way would i class you as being selfish for asking for some help and some time to yourself. I think both sound like must haves, but life sometimes isn’t so simple.

    take care xxxxxxx

    1. muminmeltdown Post author

      I need to win the lottery before I get my cleaner!! Sometimes it’s difficult because you think you should be able to cope but it really is a struggle. Thanks :)

  2. mamadeano

    The cleaner thing is a total necessity ! We’v had one since having our little girl ( 18 months) some lovely friends pay for it for us. I hate not being able to do it, as I quite like cleaning ! It’s weird how being unwell changes your perspective ey ?!

    1. muminmeltdown Post author

      I really wish I had someone to do the same for us as it really gets me down not having the energy to do it myself. I hoovered my front room rug the other day and couldn’t move my whole right side the next day!! FRUSTRATING :)


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